This is one of my favorites to bring home the point that virginity is more attractive and desirable than a bunch of experience. Too often kids are trying to move way too fast relationally and sexually. With the internet, social media, TV & movies; kids are getting bombarded with sex and sexual messages. The pressure to be "experienced" and know what you are doing is huge on kids these days. So many want to jump right in to things thinking they have to "practice" to be good at sexual activities and that is somehow
more desirable.
This simple & quick activity really drives home the point that virginity can be more attractive and overall a healthier choice for their future.
Here is what you will need for one class period:
2 ziplock sandwich/freezer bags
2 Oranges (I also use grapefruits because they are bigger)
Have students stand in a circle or remain in their desks (either is fine)
Hold up one orange and talk about how this orange represents a person who wants to experience sex to see what it is like. He/she went through health education class and knows how to be protected from disease and pregnancy so they use a form of birth control. (place the orange into one ziplock bag)
Explain that they really do not want to catch a STI or get pregnant so they are going to really play it safe. (place a second ziplock bag over the first
**at this point i always make mention of this NOT representing the use of 2 condoms or "double bagging". Using 2 male condoms or 1 male and 1 female condom at the same time INCREASES the chance of condom failure due to friction, heat and tearing. Latex on latex reduces the effectiveness of condoms all together. I will then ask "so what could our two bags represent?" (BCP & condoms, condoms & spermicidal foam, condoms and the Depo Prevera Shot, etc ... )
Now show the other orange. Explain this orange is also interested in sex but he/she decides to wait until marriage. He/she stills enjoys dating, kissing, etc. but has decided to wait. Place that orange on a shelf or a desk away from the group but visible.
Toss the bagged orange to a student. When a student has the orange they must say something about sex either - good or bad. If they say something good, they simply pass the orange back to me. If they say something bad, they must toss the orange on the floor, pick it up and pass it to back to me. This process repeats to about 4 or 5 people or until the orange is pretty beat up.
(you can have the kids pass it around too, but I like being able to choose who gets the orange. Some students may not be mature enough to handle the activity and some may be too shy to really want to be in that position.)
Once I have determined the orange has had enough .... I hold up the bagged orange and ask "What might all this damage represent?" (Pregnancy and disease is out of the mix due to the "protection" it had and technically this orange is perfectly edible and germ free.)
Ask: “Now let’s say it is time for you to go buy and orange at the store and these are the two available. Which one would you find more attractive and want to invest in?"
Ask: "how do we compare this activity to virginity as it relates to us?"
Ask: "So when it is time to get married. Which orange is more attractive, the “experienced” one – hold up the mushy orange, or the virgin orange?” Usually the students will see that the “virgin” orange is more appealing.
Say: “With sexuality, experience isn’t necessarily more attractive so what kind of orange do YOU want to be?There is also a lot of potential with further discussion too:
more desirable.
This simple & quick activity really drives home the point that virginity can be more attractive and overall a healthier choice for their future.
Here is what you will need for one class period:
2 ziplock sandwich/freezer bags
2 Oranges (I also use grapefruits because they are bigger)
Have students stand in a circle or remain in their desks (either is fine)
Hold up one orange and talk about how this orange represents a person who wants to experience sex to see what it is like. He/she went through health education class and knows how to be protected from disease and pregnancy so they use a form of birth control. (place the orange into one ziplock bag)
Explain that they really do not want to catch a STI or get pregnant so they are going to really play it safe. (place a second ziplock bag over the first
**at this point i always make mention of this NOT representing the use of 2 condoms or "double bagging". Using 2 male condoms or 1 male and 1 female condom at the same time INCREASES the chance of condom failure due to friction, heat and tearing. Latex on latex reduces the effectiveness of condoms all together. I will then ask "so what could our two bags represent?" (BCP & condoms, condoms & spermicidal foam, condoms and the Depo Prevera Shot, etc ... )
Now show the other orange. Explain this orange is also interested in sex but he/she decides to wait until marriage. He/she stills enjoys dating, kissing, etc. but has decided to wait. Place that orange on a shelf or a desk away from the group but visible.
Toss the bagged orange to a student. When a student has the orange they must say something about sex either - good or bad. If they say something good, they simply pass the orange back to me. If they say something bad, they must toss the orange on the floor, pick it up and pass it to back to me. This process repeats to about 4 or 5 people or until the orange is pretty beat up.
(you can have the kids pass it around too, but I like being able to choose who gets the orange. Some students may not be mature enough to handle the activity and some may be too shy to really want to be in that position.)
Once I have determined the orange has had enough .... I hold up the bagged orange and ask "What might all this damage represent?" (Pregnancy and disease is out of the mix due to the "protection" it had and technically this orange is perfectly edible and germ free.)
Ask: “Now let’s say it is time for you to go buy and orange at the store and these are the two available. Which one would you find more attractive and want to invest in?"
Ask: "how do we compare this activity to virginity as it relates to us?"
Ask: "So when it is time to get married. Which orange is more attractive, the “experienced” one – hold up the mushy orange, or the virgin orange?” Usually the students will see that the “virgin” orange is more appealing.
Say: “With sexuality, experience isn’t necessarily more attractive so what kind of orange do YOU want to be?There is also a lot of potential with further discussion too:
- What can the damage on the orange represent other than disease or pregnancy (orange was protected physically from germs)
- Does experience make us more attractive
- Virginity isn’t a bad thing
- Sex affects us I more ways than just physical (disease).
- Experience isn’t all it is cracked up to be
- you may eat the experience orange for free ... but you wouldn't "buy" it.
- Etc.
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